Tuesday, October 8, 2013

Anger Management For Dummies

credit:  Anger Management for Dummies
I am having trouble controlling my thoughts and my mouth right now.  I think it's because I keep adding things to do to my platter and it's overflowing.

I am yelling at my husband and the hormones are just going crazy.  I wasn't like this before the change of life.  There are many things that I do not like about being 53.  But the most concerning is my anger and outbursts. 

My therapist has recommended this book that I am now reading, Anger Manangement for Dummies.   I'm going to share some of the reading from the book and a "cheatsheet" lol.

Specifics of the book
Author:W. Doyle Gentry
ISBN: 978-0-470-03715-7
384 pages
December 2006
US $19.99 Add to Cart This price is valid for United States. Change location to view local pricing and availability.
Other Available Formats: E-book
" If your anger, or that of a loved one, is out of control and threatening your life and livelihood, you need the calm, clear, and understanding help you’ll find in Anger Management For Dummies. This concise and practical guidebook shares specific anger management methods, skills, and exercises that will help you identify the sources of your anger and release yourself from their grip. You’ll find out how to:
  • Defuse your anger before it strikes
  • Express your feelings calmly
  • Respond rather than react
  • Prevent anger incidents in the future
  • Release healthy anger in a healthy way
  • Confess your anger in a journal
  • Use anger constructively
  • Get beyond old anger through forgiveness
Complete with coverage of road rage, air rage, office rage, and dealing with angry children, Anger Management for Dummies gives you the tools you need to overcome your anger and live a happier, more productive life."

Author Information
W. Doyle Gentry, PhD, is a clinical psychologist and Director of the Institute for Anger-Free Living in Lynchburg, Virginia. He is a Fellow in the American Psychological Association and was the Founding Editor of the Journal of Behavioral Medicine. In Dr. Gentry’s four-decade career as a scientist-practitioner, he has authored over 100 publications, including eight books, and is a pioneer in the fields of health psychology, behavioral medicine, and anger management. He has previously served on the faculty of Duke University Medical Center and the University of Texas Medical Branch, Galveston. Gentry has conducted training seminars for lay and professional audiences throughout the United States, Canada, and Europe. He has also served as a consultant to major industry, where he specializes in conflict management, team building, and health promotion. Articles referring to Dr. Gentry’s work on anger regularly appear in a variety of contemporary magazines, and he is frequently interviewed on radio and television for insights into how to create and maintain an anger-free life. He is the author of two earlier self-help books on anger: ANGER-FREE: Ten Basic Steps to Managing Your Anger (Quill, 2000) and When Someone You Love Is Angry (Berkley, 2004)

Here's a great CHEAT SHEET to help you learn the principles of the book:  http://www.dummies.com/how-to/content/anger-management-for-dummies-cheat-sheet.html

I am trying a breathing practice that has recently been shared with me and others from my friend,  Peggy Bell Nolan "Today we are Mastering the Art of Self-Control. I hope you stop by and share how you've been able to practice self-control or if you haven't, the five tips I have may help you learn to master it! http://thestepmomstoolbox.com/mastering-self-control/

I've also committed this to God and am praying more often.  I know that there is only so much we can do to control our hormones, only so much we can get from life coaches and therapists and even our own relationship with God.  We take this in (as I'm doing now with the reading) and then put to practice what we are learning.


StephCalahan said...

So sorry that you are struggling with that kind of frustration. I have found that working with my health care coach and ensuring that my hormones are all in the right proportion keeps me much more fun to be around.

Sherida Holgate said...

I like this book. Raising three boys and multiple dogs sometimes makes me angry and I know at times I have reacted out of anger to them. I am going to look into this book.
Hope it works for you. You should do a follow up post letting us know how well it works.

Peggy said...

Hi Carolyn,

I am so glad you're working with some of the techniques I shared the other day. You may also want to download (it's free) my "Meditation On Breath." It's 4 minutes long and a great tool to help you quiet your mind.

Remember, negative emotions like anger take 90 seconds to wash through us. If you can take 8-10 deep belly breaths and remain wordless, the hormone reaction caused by the anger will reset back to normal in about 90 seconds.

Make it an awesome day!

Peggy Nolan

Carolyn M said...

For Steph ... There's nothing to feel sorry for, but I appreciate the sentiment. There's so much going on in my life right now that I choose to share with the Lord only and God only gives us what He knows we can handle. He's MY Life Coach! It's hard because it is not so tangible but that is where my therapist (for horrible depression) comes in. And my husband tries, but as you know men and women are so different that it's hard for them to always know just what to say! Women seem to have the right things if they are your true and trusted friends. Thanks for reading and replying.

Nancy Rodriguez said...

I really need to look into this book. I can relate to what you're going through I had some personal and health issues of my own all I did was snap snap and Snap. I try taking a breather by walking away to calm down.

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