That is often the picture we see when we're hearing about couples having trouble with "leaving and cleaving." But did you know that in my very life I have been holding onto my father and not leaving and cleaving to my husband? And to some extent my mother too! I was raised in a very strict home where you often heard, "Honor thy mother and father." This has been total confusion to me. A little bit more before I move on with this entry. This is really a letter to my husband because I've been unfair to him. I spent years and years just adoring my father more than my husband. I wanted my husband to be like my dad (in all the good ways) and telling him the way that my father would do things. I think it's true that we marry people who are like our parents. Not all the time, but quite often. In this case I married a man who is very much like my father. Even down to the joking (which I don't get all the time, but I appreciate that we aren't the same!)
I hope you can read all those wonderful words! This is my new dedicated prayer to my husband! I cherish him and do "honor" him in so many ways. Our relationship with our husbands need to be a personal and cherished relationship! My husband will never be my father (and for some things I'm very grateful he isn't.) You have to be deliberate in working on yourself through the power of the Holy Ghost, so that you can work at your marriage. Many times we go from one relationship to another thinking this time it will be better, however we see the same problems and patterns repeat themselves over and over. Casting the blame on Satan, our spouses, and anyone else that we can find a way to fix some blame to. The truth of the matter is we can't change our spouses but we can change ourselves with God's help. Each party in a marriage brings with them baggage (unhealed hurts, unmet needs, unresolved issues) to the table. Each partner has a responsibility to share openly what their fears and hang ups are. This way they can cover (protect) those areas for each other, so that healing and growth can take place.